There has long been mystery and taboo surrounding anal play – and an element of “ew!” for many people. However, if you’re interested in trying out some butt stuff, it’s a great way to get further pleasure and explore new ways to have fun,
At The PRSNLS, we want everyone to feel free to want what they want – and to not be held back by worries or misconceptions! So, we’re here to break down some of the myths and misconceptions about anal play for everyone.
Myth: Anal play means penis in butt, and that’s it.
Truth: Anal play can mean anything you want! Whether it’s light exterior play around the anus with fingers, mouths or toys, or butt plugs inserted for long periods of time, or, yes, fingers or a penis in the butt. As long as anything that goes in your butt has a flared base so it doesn’t get sucked up inside, the sky is the limit.
Myth: Inserting something in your butt will always be painful
Truth: Unless you like pain, sex acts of all kinds shouldn’t hurt! While it’s true your anal sphincter is often tighter than a vagina, taking your time and working up to larger sizes of toys or body parts is key to not create a painful situation. Also, use plenty of lube! The anus is not self-lubricating, so it needs a little help to get slick.
Myth: Anal sex will always result in poop everywhere
Truth: We won’t lie – sometimes, poop happens. And that’s okay! It washes off skin or out of fabrics with soap and water. There are ways to avoid this, however: watch what you eat the day of, have a bowel movement followed by a shower before engaging in anal play and, if you really want to put your mind at ease, using a small bulb enema will help clear you out. The main time you want to be really sure you’re clear is during mouth to anal play – you want to avoid fecal matter entering your or your partner’s digestive tract.
Myth: Only gay or bisexual men like/will experience pleasure from anal play
Truth: First off, our sexual interests are a huge spectrum, and liking anal play does not mean someone is attracted to men! Second, the prostate is an erogenous zone for many men, meaning it can induce powerful orgasms and add another dimension to sexual play.
Myth: Women don’t enjoy anal play
Truth: We’re repeating ourselves, but this is important: our sexual interests are a huge spectrum! Women can receive incredible pleasure from anal stimulation, either exterior or interior, if it’s something they’re interested in.
The bottom (no pun intended!) line is this: if you’re interested in exploring anal play, make sure you do your research and start small, working your way up. And if you’re looking for a partner to explore butt stuff with, sign up for The PRSNLS and use the tag function to find what you need!